1. Well first of all, the term is PROPOSE not PURPOSE. Secondly, speak proper English. Third, if you both have strong feelings toward one another, then how can she refuse you?
2. There are lot many ways to propose a girl... but none of the ways come with a guarantee that the girl will accept the proposal.You have to have the nerve to ask and face the answer like a man. Rejection is a part of life so if you cant accept it u better not propose her.
3. think about what would make it memorable for you and how embarassment you could stand and find the middle. make it nice and if she likes suprizes make it a total suprise she will sense it from u and may figure it out but a nice way for both of you to get enjoyment. if she doesnt drop hints and let her know before you ask thats why its nice to make it memorable. you will tell the story hopefully forever.
4. If you can't handle rejection then don't ask after allshe can say one of two things she has a choicetry to put some effort into it and make it nice for both of you and I wish all the luck in the world
Friday, December 26, 2008
How to talk to a girl
Steps
It's all about confidence! Maintain the attitude that she is lucky that you like her (make sure you are smiling, and in a nice way)--and if she doesn't see that she is lucky--well, there are plenty of girls who will. If you are not that confident, or you are shy, you should work on this dilemma by trying the ideas with some girls who are not your special crush. Learn the process with some nice girls who are friendly, and are not too scary.
Work up to that special one when you have had some good results with this process (and feel like it). Having butterflies in your tummy, and a catch or shake in your voice is fine; just don't give up or fall back just because it makes you feel shaky: that is actually a sign that she is impressive to you--tell her that she impresses you if you want to. Be prepared to tell "what and why" you notice her (to show that you mean it)...
Compliment her: Tell her she has a beautiful smile or beautiful eyes, but do not say something that is not true. And--don't say them one after the other! (It is highly recommended that you must talk about other things before complimenting or else it feels awkward)
Girls like it when boys try to defend them when someone makes fun of them or threatens them. However, in other settings like a workplace or college, these things would rarely occur.
In most cases, if you pick on her and pretend you hate her, then she will never like you. She'll think that you do not like her, so she won't like you.
Girls feel at home when you talk to them honestly and openly, so try doing that.
NEVER say to a girl that she is hot, it might make her very uncomfortable--like an object; say she is pretty or beautiful instead.
Give her your phone number, MySpace, IM, etc. when you know each other well enough.
If she asks if she looks bad or stupid, say no, NO MATTER WHAT YOU THINK. Never pause and think though that makes her think your lying
Don't talk about just boy stuff like the details about football or something else in which she's show no interest. But don't talk about really girlie stuff either or else she'll think you're gay. Try finding a neutral zone to talk about what kinds and why she likes movies, cars, foods, animals--see which ones of those she likes, ask "how" or "why not," etc.--and school, her friends (mostly) or straight music (not really weird stuff) or anything like that. Just let her set the pace and get her started and you listen closely. Listen twice as much as you talk. Show an interest in her interests--ask questions--like "who or what", when and where, "how or why"--but don't interrogate her like a spy--or like it is a fill-in-the-blank test. Be casual about it. Let it work, let if sorta flow naturally... from one thing to another. Ask about things that you like, but not to just argue! Don't be too picky (hard to get along with) or too silly (and don't grin too much...). Be more natural... relax a little, but lean toward her a little bit, and be open to her ideas, to show interest.
Tips
A note about affection: it's good to start small, a touch on her lower spine will make her warm towards you, and quietly going up behind her to cuddle is less freaky than the full on front hug, and she can easily walk away if shes uncomfortable. You can also (if you are some what friends and the kinda person who would be kind like this) say you want a hug sarcastically and most girls (this is coming from a girl) will giggle and hug you. :)
Remember this: Do not just come out and openly say that you like her because that would put her in an awkward position and the results might not be what you want them to be. Ask her, "What color are my eyes in a soft nice voice." To maintain eye contact look one eye and then the other (repeatedly) instead of staring.
Give her a real compliment and tell her why--not a list--girls don't like too many compliments; it starts to freak them out. A guy will become the total opposite of a crush if he is too much of a fake and seems as if he is just doing a "job" on them. Be slow, cool and calm about it. Laid back--but not like you don't mean it.
Say "Hi" in the hallway, if you happen to walk by her. This will tell you whether or not she wants to say hi by her facial expression.
If she looks like she would say hi back, then go for it. But if she doesn't, try another time.
Be friendly, but do not crowd her.
When you smile at a girl it makes her feel great.
After making friendly conversation with her, try holding her hand or maybe hugging her. You don't want to go too fast, though. Make sure you only go as far as she wants to.
If you want to Be a Good Boyfriend then help out with things, bags for example and things that she may find heavy.
most girls have very good connections and news spreads around very fast, if you are at all mean or disrespectful, you will be in the bad books for a while.
Things that girls love
To talk: let her tell you stories. When she does DON'T TRY TO BEAT IT. If you have a similar story share it, but do not get competitive.
To be important: make things about her, and keep talking about what SHE WANTS.
To be protected: But be careful with this, because IT IS NOT YOUR JOB. Don't go overboard and act as if she is yours, she is a person and wishes to be treated like one, not like meat. Let her know that you care without calling in the Secret Service. Be careful, more independent girls might resent this.
If you get scared take a deep breath and remember why you are doing this.
Make sure you don't look too shabby or she'll think you're a loser.
If you don't think she'll like you, still try because just talking to her after a while might make her change her mind about you.
Always give her a stare--not at her body; that's a creepy stare--but stare at her face and eyes to make her think you like her, and when she thinks you like her then she may start having feelings for you.
Warnings
If the girl doesn't like you and SHE says it, don't keep pressuring her, you'll look like a stalker. If she tells you, don't say "It's your loss."
Also remember that EVERY girl is different - therefore, there is no specific set of steps to magically get your object of affection to like you. The reason she likes you is because she likes you for who you are. So just be yourself; no one likes a poser.
When giving a girl compliments, make sure not to over-do it. If you've just told her that her eyes are beautiful, don't immediately compliment her smile.
IMPORTANT-Don't compliment her unless you are sincere; tell why you think that in a realistic way. She'll see right through you if it is not explained. Point out something that makes her special and unique--and why...
It will be difficult to maintain this with a girl who has a boyfriend.
Don't look at her breasts (one quick glance is okay)! She might feel sexually harassed, or she'll think that that's the only thing you like her for.
Remember, not to look at her body all the time but just her face,she might think that your only sexually attracted to her. Looking at her maybe with a smile makes her feel good from the inside, and can make you come to her.
One big thing about compliments. Try and compliment something that you know she worked hard on, not something like "I like your eyes". Compliment her ensemble, how she did her hair, or how radiant she looks that night.***
Remember don't always talk about yourself, girls like to talk about their day... for a horrendously long amount of time.
Girls are not sex objects! Keep it clear that each girl is a person and has a mind to deal with in a reasoning manner! Find some common interests, and share ideas.
It's all about confidence! Maintain the attitude that she is lucky that you like her (make sure you are smiling, and in a nice way)--and if she doesn't see that she is lucky--well, there are plenty of girls who will. If you are not that confident, or you are shy, you should work on this dilemma by trying the ideas with some girls who are not your special crush. Learn the process with some nice girls who are friendly, and are not too scary.
Work up to that special one when you have had some good results with this process (and feel like it). Having butterflies in your tummy, and a catch or shake in your voice is fine; just don't give up or fall back just because it makes you feel shaky: that is actually a sign that she is impressive to you--tell her that she impresses you if you want to. Be prepared to tell "what and why" you notice her (to show that you mean it)...
Compliment her: Tell her she has a beautiful smile or beautiful eyes, but do not say something that is not true. And--don't say them one after the other! (It is highly recommended that you must talk about other things before complimenting or else it feels awkward)
Girls like it when boys try to defend them when someone makes fun of them or threatens them. However, in other settings like a workplace or college, these things would rarely occur.
In most cases, if you pick on her and pretend you hate her, then she will never like you. She'll think that you do not like her, so she won't like you.
Girls feel at home when you talk to them honestly and openly, so try doing that.
NEVER say to a girl that she is hot, it might make her very uncomfortable--like an object; say she is pretty or beautiful instead.
Give her your phone number, MySpace, IM, etc. when you know each other well enough.
If she asks if she looks bad or stupid, say no, NO MATTER WHAT YOU THINK. Never pause and think though that makes her think your lying
Don't talk about just boy stuff like the details about football or something else in which she's show no interest. But don't talk about really girlie stuff either or else she'll think you're gay. Try finding a neutral zone to talk about what kinds and why she likes movies, cars, foods, animals--see which ones of those she likes, ask "how" or "why not," etc.--and school, her friends (mostly) or straight music (not really weird stuff) or anything like that. Just let her set the pace and get her started and you listen closely. Listen twice as much as you talk. Show an interest in her interests--ask questions--like "who or what", when and where, "how or why"--but don't interrogate her like a spy--or like it is a fill-in-the-blank test. Be casual about it. Let it work, let if sorta flow naturally... from one thing to another. Ask about things that you like, but not to just argue! Don't be too picky (hard to get along with) or too silly (and don't grin too much...). Be more natural... relax a little, but lean toward her a little bit, and be open to her ideas, to show interest.
Tips
A note about affection: it's good to start small, a touch on her lower spine will make her warm towards you, and quietly going up behind her to cuddle is less freaky than the full on front hug, and she can easily walk away if shes uncomfortable. You can also (if you are some what friends and the kinda person who would be kind like this) say you want a hug sarcastically and most girls (this is coming from a girl) will giggle and hug you. :)
Remember this: Do not just come out and openly say that you like her because that would put her in an awkward position and the results might not be what you want them to be. Ask her, "What color are my eyes in a soft nice voice." To maintain eye contact look one eye and then the other (repeatedly) instead of staring.
Give her a real compliment and tell her why--not a list--girls don't like too many compliments; it starts to freak them out. A guy will become the total opposite of a crush if he is too much of a fake and seems as if he is just doing a "job" on them. Be slow, cool and calm about it. Laid back--but not like you don't mean it.
Say "Hi" in the hallway, if you happen to walk by her. This will tell you whether or not she wants to say hi by her facial expression.
If she looks like she would say hi back, then go for it. But if she doesn't, try another time.
Be friendly, but do not crowd her.
When you smile at a girl it makes her feel great.
After making friendly conversation with her, try holding her hand or maybe hugging her. You don't want to go too fast, though. Make sure you only go as far as she wants to.
If you want to Be a Good Boyfriend then help out with things, bags for example and things that she may find heavy.
most girls have very good connections and news spreads around very fast, if you are at all mean or disrespectful, you will be in the bad books for a while.
Things that girls love
To talk: let her tell you stories. When she does DON'T TRY TO BEAT IT. If you have a similar story share it, but do not get competitive.
To be important: make things about her, and keep talking about what SHE WANTS.
To be protected: But be careful with this, because IT IS NOT YOUR JOB. Don't go overboard and act as if she is yours, she is a person and wishes to be treated like one, not like meat. Let her know that you care without calling in the Secret Service. Be careful, more independent girls might resent this.
If you get scared take a deep breath and remember why you are doing this.
Make sure you don't look too shabby or she'll think you're a loser.
If you don't think she'll like you, still try because just talking to her after a while might make her change her mind about you.
Always give her a stare--not at her body; that's a creepy stare--but stare at her face and eyes to make her think you like her, and when she thinks you like her then she may start having feelings for you.
Warnings
If the girl doesn't like you and SHE says it, don't keep pressuring her, you'll look like a stalker. If she tells you, don't say "It's your loss."
Also remember that EVERY girl is different - therefore, there is no specific set of steps to magically get your object of affection to like you. The reason she likes you is because she likes you for who you are. So just be yourself; no one likes a poser.
When giving a girl compliments, make sure not to over-do it. If you've just told her that her eyes are beautiful, don't immediately compliment her smile.
IMPORTANT-Don't compliment her unless you are sincere; tell why you think that in a realistic way. She'll see right through you if it is not explained. Point out something that makes her special and unique--and why...
It will be difficult to maintain this with a girl who has a boyfriend.
Don't look at her breasts (one quick glance is okay)! She might feel sexually harassed, or she'll think that that's the only thing you like her for.
Remember, not to look at her body all the time but just her face,she might think that your only sexually attracted to her. Looking at her maybe with a smile makes her feel good from the inside, and can make you come to her.
One big thing about compliments. Try and compliment something that you know she worked hard on, not something like "I like your eyes". Compliment her ensemble, how she did her hair, or how radiant she looks that night.***
Remember don't always talk about yourself, girls like to talk about their day... for a horrendously long amount of time.
Girls are not sex objects! Keep it clear that each girl is a person and has a mind to deal with in a reasoning manner! Find some common interests, and share ideas.
How to choose clothes for yourself
Express Yourself Through Your Clothing
As we pass through life we start to realize that people, including us, have a tendency of becoming more and more common. We give up the things that make us special and unique so we can be plain and common for reasons I am sure we do not even understand. Either we do not have the courage to be unique or we just come to believe that being creative and different are not such good things after all. Luckily for us it is never too late to turn into the person you used to be. It is never too late to break down the barriers and run free and wild. One way to do that is through your clothes. Independent fashion designers are one of the most obvious examples that we have. They refuse to give into the constant globalization process that seems to evolve with each passing day. What they feel, what they love and most of all how they want to be is expressed in every piece of clothing that they design. This is one true form of art. No two tops are alike as no two feelings could ever be the same. Independent designer labels can give you that certainty of being one of a kind and still look amazing. Art is an expression of our feelings and thoughts and what better way to show who you really are than through what you wear? So maybe you are not talented and you can not design your own clothes but you just wish you would stop seeing the same skirt you have on three other girls on your way to the store. You love that skirt, that is why you bought it in the first place and there is nothing wrong with other people having that same clothing item as you, but somehow you feel trapped. You feel like a piece of you is missing and at that point you start to wish you were alone in a crowd. There is a solution to your problem. Choose clothes that combine fashion with art, feelings with places and people, choose independent designer labels and independent fashion designers that look at life and fashion the same way that you do. More than that, become your own designer and show the world that being you is truly amazing and most of all special.Art can take many shapes and sizes. What independent fashion designers do is take art to another level and pass on the joy of being yourself at all times. It is not what you wear that makes you who you are, but it surely tells a lot about you. People make the clothes and not the other way around. However, the clothes that you wear should be a piece of who you are and this is why independent designer labels can be the best choice for you. Art is found in each clothing item ever made, but how that art is expressed is what makes the difference.
As we pass through life we start to realize that people, including us, have a tendency of becoming more and more common. We give up the things that make us special and unique so we can be plain and common for reasons I am sure we do not even understand. Either we do not have the courage to be unique or we just come to believe that being creative and different are not such good things after all. Luckily for us it is never too late to turn into the person you used to be. It is never too late to break down the barriers and run free and wild. One way to do that is through your clothes. Independent fashion designers are one of the most obvious examples that we have. They refuse to give into the constant globalization process that seems to evolve with each passing day. What they feel, what they love and most of all how they want to be is expressed in every piece of clothing that they design. This is one true form of art. No two tops are alike as no two feelings could ever be the same. Independent designer labels can give you that certainty of being one of a kind and still look amazing. Art is an expression of our feelings and thoughts and what better way to show who you really are than through what you wear? So maybe you are not talented and you can not design your own clothes but you just wish you would stop seeing the same skirt you have on three other girls on your way to the store. You love that skirt, that is why you bought it in the first place and there is nothing wrong with other people having that same clothing item as you, but somehow you feel trapped. You feel like a piece of you is missing and at that point you start to wish you were alone in a crowd. There is a solution to your problem. Choose clothes that combine fashion with art, feelings with places and people, choose independent designer labels and independent fashion designers that look at life and fashion the same way that you do. More than that, become your own designer and show the world that being you is truly amazing and most of all special.Art can take many shapes and sizes. What independent fashion designers do is take art to another level and pass on the joy of being yourself at all times. It is not what you wear that makes you who you are, but it surely tells a lot about you. People make the clothes and not the other way around. However, the clothes that you wear should be a piece of who you are and this is why independent designer labels can be the best choice for you. Art is found in each clothing item ever made, but how that art is expressed is what makes the difference.
10 ways to improve your personality
10 Ways To Improve Your Personality
Contrary to what you may believe, you can improve your personality.
"We continue to shape our personality all our life. If we knew ourselves perfectly, we should die." Albert Camus
The "personality" is the typical pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaviors that make a person unique.
When we say that someone has a "good personality" we mean that they are likeable, pleasant to be around, and good to socialize with.
Everyone wants to be attractive to others. Having a good personality helps - perhaps even more so than good looks.
While we can improve our looks to only a certain extent, we can work on improving the personality as much as we want.
Here are some ways in which we can accomplish this:
1. Be a better listener. Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was considered one of the most charming women in the world because she cultivated the skill of being an exceptional listener. She would look a person in the eyes and hang on their every word. Nothing is more appealing than having someone listening to you intently and making you feel like you’re the only person in the world.
Read More and Expand Your Interests. The more you read and interests you have, the more interesting you are to others. It also gives you the opportunity to meet people and share or exchange your views with them.
2. Be a good conversationalist. This relates to how much you read and know. Once you have much to contribute, learn how to talk about it with others. We can’t know everything, so it’s refreshing to learn about things we don’t have time to read about from others. If you’re shy join a group like Toastmasters that encourages you to talk about what you know.
3. Have an Opinion. There’s nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has nowhere to go if you have nothing to expound on. When you have a differing opinion, it makes you that much more interesting and stimulating to be around (unless you’re a know-it-all, of course). A unique outlook expands everyone’s perspective.
4. Meet New People. Make the effort to meet new people especially those different from you. It not only exposes you to different cultures and alternate ways of doing things, it broadens your horizons.
5. Be yourself. The next most tiresome thing after having no opinions is to try and be something you’re not. Trying to mold yourself to fit in and be accepted usually backfires. Everyone is unique and expressing that uniqueness is what makes us interesting. If we try to be a carbon copy of someone else, the lack of genuineness comes across.
6. Have a positive outlook and attitude. No one wants to be around people who are negative, complain a lot, or have nothing good to say. In fact most of us run when we see them coming. Be the kind of upbeat person that lights up a room with your energy. You can do this by looking for the best in people and things.
7. Be fun and see the humorous side of life. We all like to be around someone who makes us laugh or smile. Look for the humorous or quirky side in situations. There always is one. When you are fun and lighthearted people are naturally attracted to you.
8. Be supportive of others. This is probably the most endearing quality you can integrate into your personality. Just as you welcome it when you receive it, be the support for others when they need it. Everyone wants a cheerleader, someone who encourages and believes in them, in their corner.
9. Have Integrity and treat people with respect. Be honest and true to your word and you will have the admiration and respect of others. Respect others and you will have their attention and gratitude. Nothing improves a person’s personality more than integrity and respect - respect for others as well as respect for yourself.
10. As humans we have the power and ability to shape our personalities however we wish. When we strive to develop them to encompass all that we can be, we contribute to others and our own happiness.
Contrary to what you may believe, you can improve your personality.
"We continue to shape our personality all our life. If we knew ourselves perfectly, we should die." Albert Camus
The "personality" is the typical pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaviors that make a person unique.
When we say that someone has a "good personality" we mean that they are likeable, pleasant to be around, and good to socialize with.
Everyone wants to be attractive to others. Having a good personality helps - perhaps even more so than good looks.
While we can improve our looks to only a certain extent, we can work on improving the personality as much as we want.
Here are some ways in which we can accomplish this:
1. Be a better listener. Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was considered one of the most charming women in the world because she cultivated the skill of being an exceptional listener. She would look a person in the eyes and hang on their every word. Nothing is more appealing than having someone listening to you intently and making you feel like you’re the only person in the world.
Read More and Expand Your Interests. The more you read and interests you have, the more interesting you are to others. It also gives you the opportunity to meet people and share or exchange your views with them.
2. Be a good conversationalist. This relates to how much you read and know. Once you have much to contribute, learn how to talk about it with others. We can’t know everything, so it’s refreshing to learn about things we don’t have time to read about from others. If you’re shy join a group like Toastmasters that encourages you to talk about what you know.
3. Have an Opinion. There’s nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has nowhere to go if you have nothing to expound on. When you have a differing opinion, it makes you that much more interesting and stimulating to be around (unless you’re a know-it-all, of course). A unique outlook expands everyone’s perspective.
4. Meet New People. Make the effort to meet new people especially those different from you. It not only exposes you to different cultures and alternate ways of doing things, it broadens your horizons.
5. Be yourself. The next most tiresome thing after having no opinions is to try and be something you’re not. Trying to mold yourself to fit in and be accepted usually backfires. Everyone is unique and expressing that uniqueness is what makes us interesting. If we try to be a carbon copy of someone else, the lack of genuineness comes across.
6. Have a positive outlook and attitude. No one wants to be around people who are negative, complain a lot, or have nothing good to say. In fact most of us run when we see them coming. Be the kind of upbeat person that lights up a room with your energy. You can do this by looking for the best in people and things.
7. Be fun and see the humorous side of life. We all like to be around someone who makes us laugh or smile. Look for the humorous or quirky side in situations. There always is one. When you are fun and lighthearted people are naturally attracted to you.
8. Be supportive of others. This is probably the most endearing quality you can integrate into your personality. Just as you welcome it when you receive it, be the support for others when they need it. Everyone wants a cheerleader, someone who encourages and believes in them, in their corner.
9. Have Integrity and treat people with respect. Be honest and true to your word and you will have the admiration and respect of others. Respect others and you will have their attention and gratitude. Nothing improves a person’s personality more than integrity and respect - respect for others as well as respect for yourself.
10. As humans we have the power and ability to shape our personalities however we wish. When we strive to develop them to encompass all that we can be, we contribute to others and our own happiness.
Tips for first date for girls
Dating Do's and Don'ts For Females
by Ritesh Ranjan
It can be difficult to be a woman in the dating arena. A lot of things can go wrong for you more than it can for your male counterpart. Plus, men can be really dense about a few things. Well, no worries. Here are a few tips on what to do and not to do during a date:
1) Timing is important - Timing as in 'on time'. No matter what they say, there is no such thing as 'fashionably late'. For the first date, this can give the guy jitters and make him think that you've stood him up. For the later dates, having him wait for you in the living room for half an hour with either your roommate, your sister or, worse, your father is not something you want him to do - whether it be for the embarrassing stories or Dad's 'eyes of doom'.
2) Keep your head on straight - Yes, we all know dates are supposed to be fun, but knowing what's going on is important both for your own safety and for you love life. Is your date acting suspicious or just nervous? Maybe you'd want to end the date early or do something to calm him down. Is he taking notice of what you're wearing or just ogling? The choice to either wink at him or just stare knowingly is up to you. Is his attention on you or the girl next to you? You might wish to reward him with a smile or a slap. Situational awareness is not just for soldiers on the front but also for young women on the prowl.
3) Be nice - Have a positive attitude, find things that you like and tell him. Compliment him about his clothes, how he looks and how well the date is going. It puts him at ease and also makes him feel important. It also shows him that you're taking notice of him and you appreciate him. But, don't lie. Like I said, look at the bright side of things - the service of the restaurant may have been slow but the ambience was terrific. Try making it into a habit, you aren't lying - you're just being diplomatic!
4) Do not complain - This may be technically part of tip three, but it deserves a separate heading. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't tell him that something is wrong or something makes you uncomfortable. The way you phrase it and the tone you use is important here. 'Venting', like we do with our girl friends, is not going to go over well with him since he'll probably misinterpret it. Grin and bear it then tell him after the date in calm, reasoned tones your problem. Trust me, he'll understand and he'll try to make it up to you.
5) Enjoy the date - A date is a chance to get to know each other and to enjoy yourselves. Have fun during the date. Try not to be hyper-critical and just take things in stride. If you're not having fun, your date will notice and, trust me, he will get nervous which will probably start ruining the experience for both of you. Also, just let your guard down for a little while. Let him see the real you. He may or may not like it, but in the end he will appreciate the honesty of the act. Besides, if he doesn't like you for you, why should you keep on dating?
6) Afterwards, show interest - If you really like the guy, waiting for the call after a successful date is nerve-wracking. You know he's interested and you're definitely interested, you're just waiting for him to call you so you could arrange another date. Try giving him a day or two. He usually has to get his act together and work up the courage to call. If he doesn't call, he's probably still tongue-tied from being in your presence. Call him up to say hello. Talk about the date and how you had fun and give hints. No matter how dense he will pick up on it and he'll probably be asking you for another date!
7) Be consistent - For those who've crossed the 'First Date' Rubicon, try maintaining the impression you made on him on that first date. Men don't like surprises except, of course, if they plan them. This doesn't mean, however, that you'll just give him the first date you. Talk to each other, both on and off dates, to get to know each other more. What he got on the first date was a sneak peek, what he should get from your continued dating should be the entire reel.
Well, there they are seven tips for dating success! Hopefully, this advice could help lead you through today's tough tangle of relationships. Happy hunting!
by Ritesh Ranjan
It can be difficult to be a woman in the dating arena. A lot of things can go wrong for you more than it can for your male counterpart. Plus, men can be really dense about a few things. Well, no worries. Here are a few tips on what to do and not to do during a date:
1) Timing is important - Timing as in 'on time'. No matter what they say, there is no such thing as 'fashionably late'. For the first date, this can give the guy jitters and make him think that you've stood him up. For the later dates, having him wait for you in the living room for half an hour with either your roommate, your sister or, worse, your father is not something you want him to do - whether it be for the embarrassing stories or Dad's 'eyes of doom'.
2) Keep your head on straight - Yes, we all know dates are supposed to be fun, but knowing what's going on is important both for your own safety and for you love life. Is your date acting suspicious or just nervous? Maybe you'd want to end the date early or do something to calm him down. Is he taking notice of what you're wearing or just ogling? The choice to either wink at him or just stare knowingly is up to you. Is his attention on you or the girl next to you? You might wish to reward him with a smile or a slap. Situational awareness is not just for soldiers on the front but also for young women on the prowl.
3) Be nice - Have a positive attitude, find things that you like and tell him. Compliment him about his clothes, how he looks and how well the date is going. It puts him at ease and also makes him feel important. It also shows him that you're taking notice of him and you appreciate him. But, don't lie. Like I said, look at the bright side of things - the service of the restaurant may have been slow but the ambience was terrific. Try making it into a habit, you aren't lying - you're just being diplomatic!
4) Do not complain - This may be technically part of tip three, but it deserves a separate heading. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't tell him that something is wrong or something makes you uncomfortable. The way you phrase it and the tone you use is important here. 'Venting', like we do with our girl friends, is not going to go over well with him since he'll probably misinterpret it. Grin and bear it then tell him after the date in calm, reasoned tones your problem. Trust me, he'll understand and he'll try to make it up to you.
5) Enjoy the date - A date is a chance to get to know each other and to enjoy yourselves. Have fun during the date. Try not to be hyper-critical and just take things in stride. If you're not having fun, your date will notice and, trust me, he will get nervous which will probably start ruining the experience for both of you. Also, just let your guard down for a little while. Let him see the real you. He may or may not like it, but in the end he will appreciate the honesty of the act. Besides, if he doesn't like you for you, why should you keep on dating?
6) Afterwards, show interest - If you really like the guy, waiting for the call after a successful date is nerve-wracking. You know he's interested and you're definitely interested, you're just waiting for him to call you so you could arrange another date. Try giving him a day or two. He usually has to get his act together and work up the courage to call. If he doesn't call, he's probably still tongue-tied from being in your presence. Call him up to say hello. Talk about the date and how you had fun and give hints. No matter how dense he will pick up on it and he'll probably be asking you for another date!
7) Be consistent - For those who've crossed the 'First Date' Rubicon, try maintaining the impression you made on him on that first date. Men don't like surprises except, of course, if they plan them. This doesn't mean, however, that you'll just give him the first date you. Talk to each other, both on and off dates, to get to know each other more. What he got on the first date was a sneak peek, what he should get from your continued dating should be the entire reel.
Well, there they are seven tips for dating success! Hopefully, this advice could help lead you through today's tough tangle of relationships. Happy hunting!
Thursday, December 25, 2008
10 Tips for first date for boys
10 Important Dating Tips for Men
There is a saying that "you never get a second chance to make a good first impression." With that in mind, it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great impression on each date you go on. Here are 10 tips for men on dating success and making an impression that will last.
1. Take a Bath or ShowerOne of the worst things you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species and will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a mutt dog with tangled fur that hadn't bathed for days.
It doesn’t cost anything to take a bath and to make an effort to look and smell nice. Remember, bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time even if you are just having a bad day. As a result, she won’t be able to see beyond your appearance.
2. Arrive on TimeWhatever you do, don’t turn up late. Turning up late will send out all the wrong impressions. At first she may think she's been stood up, but after arriving late her opinion will change to you being unreliable or not caring enough about her to be on time. If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable to turn up five minute before you are due. Any earlier and you might catch her adjusting her makeup or still getting ready. Five minutes early is the earliest you should arrive. But never be late.
3. Give Her a Thoughtful GiftA woman feels special when the man she is with gives her a thoughtful gift. What is a thoughtful gift? Well, you obvious know some things about a woman before a first date that came from phone conversations, emails, etc. Take what you know and buy her an appropriate date gift. For example, let's say that the woman really likes golf. There are companies that make chocolate golf sets - a miniature chocolate club with a chocolate tee and chocolate golf ball. This would make a great first date gift. For a generic thoughtful gift, buy a chocolate rose. That's always appropriate without being overboard.
4. Be a GentlemanHold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull her chair, and be polite to her along with the people around you. Women like to feel special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.
5. Compliment Her The first thing to say to her is you look beautiful before you even ask how she is. Keep up the compliments throughout your date, but do not go over board (3-4 for the night should be more than enough). A woman loves to be complimented, to feel beautiful and to think that you are attracted to her. The more sincere and observant your compliment, the bigger impact it will have. But remember again not to go overboard. More than four compliments may make you appear fake and not real.
6. Listen to Her and Ask QuestionsNobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and letting her talk than talking yourself.
7. Prepare for the ConversationThe last thing you want is to be sitting at a meal with nothing to talk about. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her. You may think that it is easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask or that you will automatically have the answers but until you are in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. Avoid talking about past relationships or other women while on the date. Keep your focus, attention, and conversation fully on her.
8. Pay for the DateIt's virtually always appropriate for a gentleman to offer to pay for the date. When a man takes it upon himself to pay for the date, he is displaying that old act of "chivalry" that is missing from many men these days. However, some women feel more comfortable going "dutch" and if she insists on this, then don't resist. To avoid awkwardness, make sure you let her know before the date that you plan on paying for it.
9. The Goodnight Kiss Some women prefer not to kiss after a first date, while others may be disappointed if the guy doesn't even try. There is no easy answer to this question. Body language and chemistry throughout the night is key in the decision you make. If it feels right, then you may want to consider making the move. If it doesn't feel right then a friendly hug may be more appropriate.
10. I'll Call YouOnly tell her that you will call her if you mean it and intend on seeing her again. Do not, under any circumstances, tell her you will call her if you are not interested and have no plans to call her. In this case, when saying goodbye, just say, "It was nice meeting you" and wish her luck. Or you could just say good night, smile and walk a way. But if you do like her and are interested, then you must let her know.
There is a saying that "you never get a second chance to make a good first impression." With that in mind, it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great impression on each date you go on. Here are 10 tips for men on dating success and making an impression that will last.
1. Take a Bath or ShowerOne of the worst things you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species and will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a mutt dog with tangled fur that hadn't bathed for days.
It doesn’t cost anything to take a bath and to make an effort to look and smell nice. Remember, bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time even if you are just having a bad day. As a result, she won’t be able to see beyond your appearance.
2. Arrive on TimeWhatever you do, don’t turn up late. Turning up late will send out all the wrong impressions. At first she may think she's been stood up, but after arriving late her opinion will change to you being unreliable or not caring enough about her to be on time. If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable to turn up five minute before you are due. Any earlier and you might catch her adjusting her makeup or still getting ready. Five minutes early is the earliest you should arrive. But never be late.
3. Give Her a Thoughtful GiftA woman feels special when the man she is with gives her a thoughtful gift. What is a thoughtful gift? Well, you obvious know some things about a woman before a first date that came from phone conversations, emails, etc. Take what you know and buy her an appropriate date gift. For example, let's say that the woman really likes golf. There are companies that make chocolate golf sets - a miniature chocolate club with a chocolate tee and chocolate golf ball. This would make a great first date gift. For a generic thoughtful gift, buy a chocolate rose. That's always appropriate without being overboard.
4. Be a GentlemanHold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull her chair, and be polite to her along with the people around you. Women like to feel special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.
5. Compliment Her The first thing to say to her is you look beautiful before you even ask how she is. Keep up the compliments throughout your date, but do not go over board (3-4 for the night should be more than enough). A woman loves to be complimented, to feel beautiful and to think that you are attracted to her. The more sincere and observant your compliment, the bigger impact it will have. But remember again not to go overboard. More than four compliments may make you appear fake and not real.
6. Listen to Her and Ask QuestionsNobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and letting her talk than talking yourself.
7. Prepare for the ConversationThe last thing you want is to be sitting at a meal with nothing to talk about. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her. You may think that it is easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask or that you will automatically have the answers but until you are in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. Avoid talking about past relationships or other women while on the date. Keep your focus, attention, and conversation fully on her.
8. Pay for the DateIt's virtually always appropriate for a gentleman to offer to pay for the date. When a man takes it upon himself to pay for the date, he is displaying that old act of "chivalry" that is missing from many men these days. However, some women feel more comfortable going "dutch" and if she insists on this, then don't resist. To avoid awkwardness, make sure you let her know before the date that you plan on paying for it.
9. The Goodnight Kiss Some women prefer not to kiss after a first date, while others may be disappointed if the guy doesn't even try. There is no easy answer to this question. Body language and chemistry throughout the night is key in the decision you make. If it feels right, then you may want to consider making the move. If it doesn't feel right then a friendly hug may be more appropriate.
10. I'll Call YouOnly tell her that you will call her if you mean it and intend on seeing her again. Do not, under any circumstances, tell her you will call her if you are not interested and have no plans to call her. In this case, when saying goodbye, just say, "It was nice meeting you" and wish her luck. Or you could just say good night, smile and walk a way. But if you do like her and are interested, then you must let her know.
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
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